By Elizabeth 

It's so easy.

Every night before I go to bed, I take out a pen and paper and I write down three things I felt grateful for that day.

Like doing sit-ups or eating healthy food, while I’m actually engaged in this activity, I barely notice its value. In fact, it sometimes seems silly.

I mean, really, how can jotting down how much I love my dogs, night after night, change anything in my actual life?

But somehow, it does. 

If I’m consistent, this habit revolutionizes my sense of connection to the world around me.

What felt good? What felt warm? What brought that feeling of presence and grounded joy?

I aim for three moments of gratitude but I don’t insist on it.

Sometimes there are more, sometimes less; it’s the time spent feeling into that space that matters.

The key is not to panic if what you write down feels, well, mundane. Or hedonistic. Or frivolous.

Being grateful for chocolate counts!

And definitely don’t get discouraged if you don’t notice a dramatic change right away.

Invitations to lean towards negativity feel less alluring. I more naturally find myself in a state of grounded connectedness even while, say, going to the post office or driving in rush-hour traffic.

It’s as if a positivity buffer surrounds me. When I’m not consistent, that buffer diminishes. But I can always get it back!

And that’s a good feeling, too—just knowing that even when I have fallen off the gratitude wagon, all it takes is a few simple moments with my own mind, every day, to reclaim that sense of ease in the world.

Do you have a gratitude practice? Are you interested in building one?

Elizabeth is a journalist who has been writing about health, beauty and wellness for over 20 years. She lives in Northern New Mexico with her two dogs and several hundred trees, shrubs, bushes and succulents.